Another form of communication but very important too it’s the cybernetic or better said the cyber communication. This word it’s from Greek vocabulary “kybernetykos” meaning governance or ruling. The cybernetic it’s the science which study the nature of bonds, connections, orders and the process of adjustment in living organisms and technique systems regarding the formal analogies.

In few words, the cybernetic studies the aspects which regards the communication process and adjustment in biologic, technique, social and economic systems. But, if somebody asks you “What is cyber communication?” you can give him a very short but correct answer”: cyber communication means communication through systems because cybernetic it’s the system’s ruling science.
But, for giving you an ample answer to the question “What is cyber communication?” I’ll offer you a short story of cybernetic. The bases of cybernetic as science were implemented by the American savant (German of origin) Norbert Wiener in 1948. He published an essay called “Cybernetics, Control and Communication in the Animal and Machine”. Norbert Wiener has also a predecessor of cybernetic. I am talking about the Romanian savant Stefan Odobleja (1902-1978) who published in 1938 an essay called “La psychologie consonantique”. In that essay, Odobleja approached lots of problems regarding the adjustment and the communication in alive systems.



It’s very important of elevating that Cybernetic states the similarity in what regards the adjustment and the communication (at conceptual level) in all the categories of systems: biology, technique, economic and social too. Nowadays, diversified categories of systems regarding cybernetics’ departments had devolved and I’ll name some of them:
-The cybernetic of biologic systems;
-The cybernetic of technique systems;
-The cybernetic of economic systems;
-The cybernetic of social systems and so on.
According to cybernetic science, the communication between two people or between groups it’s like a device of communication between apparatus able to transmit and decode (to interpret) orders. Any system and here I am talking about apparatus, organism, foundation it’s like a black box featured with an in-put and an out-put and possesses a converting function which allows the anticipation of the out-put going from the in-put. Any change brought to an element from this system can affect all the others.

The feed-back has a very important role in this cybernetic system. The feed-back it’s the converse connection from a communication system which includes the process of adjustment. The adjustment allows the system to adapt to the changes from context. In this way, the source can answer and also it can adapt to the information received about the results of delivered messages and this is how it’s maintained the system’s equilibrium. The equilibrium of system it’s called homeostasis- the organism’s property of maintaining the constants of internal environment in closer limits.

The most studied type of communication, the verbal communication, has two forms: oral and written. This article it’s supposed to answer to a very simple question” What is oral communication?” and the answer it’s also very simple. Oral communication it’s supposed of being the message understood and it’s oral expressing. There are lots of speakers who simply impress us. The fascination doesn’t come just from the message’s content but especially from the manner of communicating it. In these situations, we are in the presenece of „two languages” For giving an ample answer to the question: “What is oral communication?” I’ll offer you in this article all the oral communication’s forms and I’ll start with the:
-Monologue: it’s a communication’s form in which the emitter doesn’t involve a receiver but there it’s a feedback without existing a certain public;

-Conference : a classical conference suppose a direct public addressing in which that who sustain the conference avoids in expressing his own judgments but presents with fidelity the judgments of the authors he’s talking about;
-Announcement or the display it’s a form of speech in which the emitter presents in direct and explicit manner his personality, his opinions and his value’s system and also the emitter transmits his own opinions regarding a certain subject;
-Prelection: it’s a communicative situation in which the public that assist at prelection has the possibility of organizing the information, the facts, and events antecedent to this type of communication. The prelection supposes a highest level of tackling especially that the speaker are not totally informed about the subject;
-Narration: it’s a communication’s type in which an emitter makes a decode, a revealing or a presentation using a type of language or another regarding an objective reality and general facts. The emitter has no part of involving in the presented actions avoiding the subjectivism and personalism;

-Speech: it’s the most claiming and highest level form of monologue which suppose emitting, explaining and sustaining some points of view, some inedited ideas which express a moment or a very important part in that domain’s ascent;
-Toast: it’s a  pronunciation interceded because a very special event counting just three or four minutes invoking the feelings of those presents;
-Allocution it’s a speaker’s interceding in a communicational circumstance expressing a point of view and counts just ten minutes;
-Account it’s the easiest form of communication using the most diversified manners invoking imagination, feelings, antecedent knowledge, the emitter’s personalism. In this way, the emitter marks the form and the style of the delivered messages;
-Defense it’s almost the same with the allocution but presents a characteristic: that who sustain a defence presents and explain his own point of view;
-Homily: it’s an addressing which eliminates any possibility of critic manifestation or contra-argumentation; it’s specific for powerful hierarchies institutions;


-Interference: it’s a situation in which the emitter sustains the ideas of other partner in a certain discussion this one agreeing with the transmitted message;
-Dialogue: it’s a communication in which the messages are changed between members everyone becoming emitter and receiver. In this way they change information, all the members being equal with each other;
-Debate: it’s a moderated communication’s form dedicated to clarification and throughness of some ideas.

Did you observe the positive head’s signals while communicating with the others at your work, on the street or in family? But did you observe the negative signals? You truly should accord to yourself some time for thinking what impression left you a person that smiled with her eyes that used a trustful handshake and also respected your personal space. Did you catch it? Let’s do the same exercise but on the other extreme. Imagine a person that used such a powerful handshake that almost hurt you, a person that smiled with his mouth while his eyes were telling another story. What impression did he create to you? You must be convinced that reading nonverbal communication regarding the positive but also the negative signals it’s not an easy task.

It says that women are more sensitive than men, they are able to observe the body language very fast and also they read all nonverbal signals almost involuntary. All in a correct way. There is a very important thing we must catch in our minds no matter if you’re a man or a woman. You must avoid reading nonverbal communication for example interpreting some gestures when they are out of the initially circumstance. Each individual gesture it’s followed by others that help us in correctly decoding the meaning of the message delivered through body language.

Why we must smile? There is an old but funny quote that says: “Who doesn’t know to smile better not opening a store.” The smile it’s one of positive nonverbal signals that a person can percept it even when he’s somewhere at 90 meters. The smile it’s also the most used affection display. Don’t forget about the smile’s importance in any situation you’d be. The science proved that as much you smile as many positive reactions you’ll get. But, let’s talk now about other situation in which reading nonverbal communication it’s also extremely important. Did you know that in an ugly conflict, at your work place or right in the street, a person can have an aggressive body language without thinking at it? This thing happens because we say 120 words per minute while thinking to others 800 words expressed through nonverbal communication. But, as a person expresses his angry, his aggressively through nonverbal signals, we also can get trained for fighting against them and also for promoting positive nonverbal signals.

You must take a commitment for yourself that you’ll dedicate all your life to learn reading nonverbal communication. You also must catch in your head that people can communicate in many ways, verbal or nonverbal. Why it’s important this commitment? Well, because decoding body language it’s a process of continuous learning. As much you train the abilities of reading body’s signals, as conscious you’ll be by their signification.

First impressions truly matters. First few minutes from a hiring interview are so important and so reprover than nothing else matters. In this article I’d like to give some examples of nonverbal communication regarding business and interviews. When you must hire a new person it’s ideal to observe him and take some notes upon all the nonverbal messages that he delivers to you. In this way, you can form the first impression observing his posture, his outfit and the accessories, the personal space that he uses, the  attention he pay, the handshake, eye contact and affection displays. After observing all these, you can careful listen the answers he gives to your questions.



Here are some examples of nonverbal communication you really should know when hiring a new person: The candidate sits comfortable on the chair or quite lazy? Walks in the room with a trustful attitude? These are signs that he’s hopeful and very enthusiastic. The posture adopted by a person while walking in the room for meeting you, his possible future boss, can communicate you information about his self confidence and his abilities. A posture which is inactive and nerveless indicates carelessness and drowsiness. Look if your candidate uses a solid firm handshake. A hopeful person uses the handshake as a positive nonverbal interaction. The candidate’s handshake should convince you about his desire of making a first positive impression.

Another example of nonverbal communication it’s the costume. No matter how informal can be a work setting; a professional candidate must wear a tux at his first meeting for hiring interview. In this way, the chosen tux will communicate you how well he’ll interact and how well he’ll get understood by your clients. The chosen accessories can or cannot transmit professionalism. A brief case, a leather wallet, a pen, an attaché case can make a professional appearance and it will communicate to you that the candidate made some efforts for making a good first impression.  The clothes but also the accessories chosen by the candidate for hiring interview day are a very powerful manner of nonverbal communication and I’d like to advice you to observe all these things when you are tempted to hire that certain person. There is a ten dollar words regarding candidates’ nonverbal communication let’s say the key to candidates heart. You must hear his nonverbal behavior. A professional candidate should know to perfectly infuse his affection displays and his body language with the spoken words. The affection displays which don’t fit with the spoken words can indicate a certain stress or a lie, kind of behavior you really don’t need when hiring a new candidate.

There is also another thing to say about a candidate who’d like to be employed. If he doesn’t realize eye contact and speaks while watching a certain point he indicates a poor self confidence. A professional candidate that I’m sure you’d like to hire must have heavy-bodied affection displays emphasizing his spoken words.

The knowledge about nonverbal behavior it’s more an art that gets even vivid during time, being necessary a systematic observation upon the others but also a constant effort of interpreting nonverbal communication. In fact, all that we do mean a manner of communicating. The nonverbal communication cannot be stopped and in some situations, it can betray our intentions. The solution it’s not represented by over control but by owning some basic rules. Body language it’s a universal and natural language, proper for all people. Including some little cultural differences, the body language can be identically recognized on the entire planet. Some statistics gave the following result regarding the source’s message influence upon receivers:
-words: 7%-10% from totally influence;
-voice: 10%-30% from totally influence;
-body language: 60%-80% from totally influence.

This result indicates that the way you look, your gestures, your smile, the way you’re dressed and the way you’re moving has the biggest impact upon a person’s attitude. Even the popular intelligentsia indicates this thing because some old people continue to say: “A single gesture makes more than one thousand of words.” A person’s way of speaking it’s three times more important than the used words. In specialized literature, there are five categories of interpreting nonverbal communication:

-The attitude : that a person it’s adopting in a certain moment, the movements that change and influence the body’s pose like crossed legs or swing on toes and feet.
-The pantomime: means all the signs and occurrences that we can observe on the other face. Pantomime it’s also called affection displays.
-The gesticulation: means all the hands gestures called also “hands language” like opening or closing a door, chocking the cigarette and so on.
-The distance: means the distance we keep from the others (sometimes the kept distance between a person and animals or objects), spontaneous movements that change the distance from an objective.
-The voice variety: means all the aspects manifesting during speaking time like: pauses, rhythm of speaking, tone and so on. There are also some loudly manifestation but in totally absence of verbal content like: sigh or smack.

-The emotions are affective moods of short term that indicates a specific of person’s relationships with an object or a situation. In conclusion, the emotions have a situational characteristic. They can be unleashed by real or shadowy  circumstance. Emotional affections can be expressed not just through affection displays or gestures but also thorough look, eye contact that express the person’s mental mood. The eye, as sense organ, has an important role in emotional manifestation. Through its functions, the eye expresses the affective mood and the mutuality that it’s presents everywhere. The human’s affection display it’s enough for ascertaining interpersonal relationships.

The nonverbal communication it’s the communication used for expressing sensations, emotions, attitudes but without words. Even without words, we communicate through what we do: the posture of our body, the way we walk, the way we rise up our shoulders, our gestures, our clothes, the way we drive a car or the way we stay at office. All these things have a signification and also they communicate an idea. The sense of nonverbal communication depends of train of events but also it depends of relationships between people. The nonverbal communication is very important regarding the social aspect. Usually, the verbal statements are influenced by a chain of factors like: fear of not offending or upsetting somebody, a desire of getting into serious business, social pressure that sometimes forces us of telling we agree with a certain statement even that we disagree with it and so on.

The nonverbal communication completes attests and gradates the meaning of verbal messages. Sometimes, the nonverbal communication it’s more credible than verbal communication. A great orator must own very well the verbal communication but also the nonverbal communication. The nonverbal communication it’s formed by a number of separated codes that we must learn and use it. Some nonverbal codes are universally but have the same meaning being understood in different cultures.

But, other codes have different meanings in different cultures.  In fact, culture in nonverbal communication has an important role helping us in getting to know better our interlocutor. I have some examples for you regarding culture in nonverbal communication:
-In Romania, moving the head from right to left or from left to right indicates a negation but in Bulgaria this movement indicates an affirmation. Not knowing the specific of this culture we can get wrong understood or our messages can be quite confusing.
-In Romania, moving the head up and down means “yes”, an affirmation while people from Sri Lanka express the same thing moving their head from right to left.
-to point one's finger at somebody it’s considered an impolite gesture in Romania, an offending gesture in Thailand but in SUA it’s an absolutely neutral gesture.
-Using an excessive gesture it’s considered us being impolite in many countries but, on the other part, hand’s gestures create Italians prestige of passionate nation.
-The Americans have an interesting way of crossing their legs using very relaxed, demonstrativeness and large movements. This manner of crossing their legs totally differs by Europeans’ manner which is more under control, carefully in the final pose.
-In every country, men gestures are different than women gestures.

-In America, a man puts his legs on the table indicating a comfortable pose or indicating his control upon the situation. In Romania, people are quite conscious regarding this gesture correlating it with formality, contest, and pressure. Sometimes, legs swing can indicate boredom, stress or impatience.

I think that already happened to you at least once to realize that it’s not so important what you say but the way in saying it. That’s why, some people are powerful than others when it comes to convince somebody even that they use the same words. The statistics in communication’s area shows that 55% from the entire message that we communicate in our interpersonal relationships it’s delivered through our body language, a nonverbal element (gestures and attitude), 38% it’s transmitted through paraverbal elements (strain, rhythm and the volume of our voice) and just 7% it’s transmitted through words (simple verbal element). I do not know what your opinion is, but, as for me, it all sounds quite scary. It’s like our thoughts and feelings are written on my front, printed in my gestures and attitude, sustained by my body’s pose and I cannot do anything regarding all these. But, I won’t get scared too much. The great news it’s that we can use all these things in our favor.

On a part, we can control much better our body language and our strain for exactly communicating what we want to express and on the other part, allowing more attention to the other’s body language, decoding it, we’ll know them much better and we’ll efficiently communicate. These lines were about nonverbal communication general percentage. But, find out that there is a percentage regarding nonverbal communication in business too.  Any business relationship it’s based on 92% nonverbal communication while verbal competency it’s important like 8%. Lots of specialists consider that during a negotiation, through the most important elements that assure the understanding, congruence has the most important role. It’s very necessary that verbal communication transmits the same things as body language.

The nonverbal communication in business it’s extremely important because understanding our body language but of our partner too, we can obtain more information than obtaining through verbal communication. And I give you a simple example. If we can decode the body denying attitude regarding an offer, we can chip in time to provoke an open attitude to reform our proposal. In conclusion, the chances of obtaining a positive answer are growing up. The specialists in communication’s area state that eye contact, the hands, open palms and uncrossed feet indicate that our interlocutor it’s hearing us, understand and accept our message.

The specialists recommend an open gesture’s technique for generating an open mood for negotiating and a smooth communication. Also, a manner of copying the gestures offers trust and influence the interlocutor for adopting a relaxed attitude. Another important thing about nonverbal communication. Always, we must adapt our manner of delivering the message to everybody’s skills of communication. The identification of the client of business partner with who we discuss can be realized just watching his gestures, his pantomime and also detecting the keywords that defines his profile. In this way, we can influence the relationship or negotiation’s evolution as we want.

This article is supposed to offer you a clear comparison between verbal and nonverbal communication. Firstly, I’ll discuss about the process of communication and then we’ll find out the difference between these two types of communication. Communication represents a system of transmitting some messages which can be considered as mental process like confusions, thoughts, decisions or affections displays like sounds and gestures. The communication it’s a social necessity but also an activity. The appearance of communications was influenced by people’s necessity of communicating as persons or social groups when they were separated by distance. The communication’s development was influenced by people’s necessity of communicating with each other or with their foundations for implementing the social relationships. The communication’s forms appear and devolve with the primary manner of communication: the language (oral or written).

The verbal communication has a big role regarding negotiating problems but also regarding the content. The verbal communication allows a logic game of questions and answers in a flexible and spontaneous unfolding. This thing it’s not possible when negotiating are happening in written ways or others techniques.  Lots of activities were realized through verbal communication like: obtaining and delivering information, working out of some concepts, expressing some opinions. The language in treaty or negotiating firstly supposes a good communication between treaty’s partners. The art of speaking it’s acquired through knowledge’s accumulation but also through continuity that discharge the hesitation, the disorderly speaking and the absence of expression.

On the other side, nonverbal communication gets united with verbal communication for communicating a correct message. The nonverbal communication’s study gives us the force and refreshes all our intuitive knowledge that we have about a person or a group. The following affections display reflects the most known moods expressed through nonverbal communication:
-the smile indicates a friendly person up for discussions;
-the crossed arms indicate a negative attitude;
-posed on the chair, with crossed hands on the back head, all body inclined on back indicated an attitude specific for a boss that’s tempted to bound the territory;
-hands on the table indicate a person who’s ready for action
-persons that sometimes chafe their hands have something to hide;
-persons that chafe their palms are on the good way of realizing a greatest thing.

Despite the fact that verbal communication has the most important role in interpersonal relationships, nonverbal communication it’s also extremely important. Usually it’s used as substitute or in supervening manner with verbal communication for having a perfect attitude when delivering a message to our partner. But also, there is much knowledge we must find out in order to deliver a message to our interlocutor or, better said, we must own some communication skills like: clearness, naturalness and simplicity, correctness, courtliness and politeness.

Words and gestures are parts of communication. It’s supposed that nonverbal communication is about 90% from general communication. But, what exactly transmits this type of communication? There is maybe a dictionary about gestures and especially of visions? Well, this article is about the effect of eye contact in nonverbal communication and I’ll try to explain if a strong eye contact is necessary a great attitude.

When somebody says “yellow”, a person can think at sun, another at a yellow wall and others can think at broods and so on. We cannot know what the associated image to yellow is without our partner of discussion says it. The vision it’s an important characteristic of nonverbal communication.  There is a general opinion about eye contact. If you’re looking very powerful to your partner, you seem as being sincere and truly interested about conversation. Can be this opinion 100% really? Maybe, if something annoying had happened and I ask the others who’s responsible of that and all of them are looking straight into my eyes and just a single person doesn’t have a strong eye contact with me, may I suppose it’s his fault? Maybe he didn’t heard what I was talking about, maybe he’s thinking to something more important and hasn’t time to listen my problem or maybe seeing me upset makes him to get shy. Why the absence of visual contact would indicate just left-handedness?

Those who lie for surely have a reason. And, usually, reason impulses you do to everything to hide your lie. In conclusion, a liar can look straight into your eyes and continues to lie you off-handedly, neither the smallest whiplash attesting him. So, basing only on this type of reaction in analyzing somebody can be an austere error of judgment.  In Japan, a powerful eye contact indicates more a symbol of aggression and lack of respect. In Occident, represents interest and sincerity. The opinion about eye contact in nonverbal communication depends of culture, perception but also acquires different symbols from person to person.

People to who their eyes are “walking” while you are talking, can have many reasons for this reaction, without being less interested or double-faced. Maybe they are shy or nervous because an antecedent event ruined their mood. Personally, very rare I’m looking straight into a person’s eyes. I like to observe a person with more secrecy. I hate the idea of making my partner of discussion feeling shy or daunted. I was a shy person now long time ago and I’ve discussed with many timorous persons. I know how you are feeling when somebody simply gazes at you.  And, even when I’m looking to somebody when talking, I don’t look into his eyes but I’m looking to his face profile. But I’m not a hollow-hearted person. Also, usually I’m very attentive when somebody talks with me without gazing at him. In my opinion, I’m certain that you can proof your attention through other ways not just through assiduous looks.

Right in ’60 years, some specialists in this subject, started to speak more often about the importance of nonverbal communication. Nowadays, almost all of us have knowledge about this type of communication. But the question is other. How much of us use the knowledge about importance of nonverbal communication? In this article, I’d like to give some examples about nonverbal communication and I’ll start with the most simple like the rhythm of our way in talking.

So, the rhythm we talk like affection displays are very important for our discussion partner. For lots of people, a slow rhythm indicates hesitation but a very alert rhythm indicates anxiety and indecision. On the other side, talking about affection displays, they were studied lot of time ago but we cannot speak about it than in a generalization manner because affection displays are too many and also their meaning it’s different.

But, some affection displays are well known in the whole world like the eyebrow display: completely raised, they indicate hesitation, half raised they indicate a surprise, in a normal pose the eyebrows indicate the absence of reactions and criteria, half sunk they indicate perplexity and totally sunk the eyebrows indicate disgust, angry. The visual contact is another characteristic of nonverbal communication. It has functions in moderating a conversation, delivering feed-back, in expressing our feelings and also, it can transmit information about the relation between two interlocutors. The visual contact is the most important characteristic of communication. Many of our appreciations are instinctive, what we are used to call “the first impression” it’s more the result of period and type of our interlocutor’s look. Lots of examinations show that we are choosing our discussion’s partners from those persons who accord to us visual interest and especially we can look into his eyes. Other elements of nonverbal communication are the gestures and our outfit. Very short alert motions indicate angry and distance while ample motions indicate an artistic spirit or, in other cases, can indicate a person who’s not very sure about her ability of talking. What’s correlating to our outfit, I’m sure that every magazine talks about its importance, about our social roles and also about the effect upon the others.

There are some persons that aren’t used in having a business array. How can they cope with an important interview? My piece of advice it’d be to choose a decent look in which they feel comfortable and not clothes “as the book says”. If we don’t feel well in our skin and we don’t recognize the person from those clothes, the chances to make the others feel okay in our presence are extremely doubtful. I hope this article made you to understand better the importance of nonverbal communication and now, in your way to an important interview, try not thinking on some intelligent answers you must give but greatest it’d be to listen a song that you like very much, to relax and to have an hopeful smile on your face.