Like in the realm of nature, there can be no heat without the presence of cold, no light without the presence of darkness, or no life without death, similarly in the area of human emotions, there can be no positive relationship without completely avoiding the presence of negative feelings. It is an art to be learned by which we can properly allay these negative emotions and express them without harming our relations in the long term.

It’s a Potboiler
It is extremely important that we communicate negative feelings in a controlled manner because they might ultimately become the most crucial factor behind the “break” of all types of relationships between people. People feel that by not expressing their feelings to the concerned person they are probably avoiding any possible confrontation. But, what they fail to understand that this suppressed tension builds up gradually with time and a time comes when it bursts out real bad, shattering relations in a way that they can never be mended.
The primary reason behind this can be traced to the fact that people are usually too scared to speak their minds because they fear the following repercussions. But, the fact is that all feelings can be expressed in a better way.

Steps To Communicate Negative Feelings
The tendency of holding back your feelings for a long amount of time ultimately results in your exploding it out over someone dear. This disaster can be avoided by:
• Precisely identify the way you are feeling before speaking it out to someone.
• Take long breaths for calming down yourself.
• Be clear with the thing which you want to convey.
• Remember that the same thing can be said in a better way. Instead of blaming the other person, express it in a way which specifically focuses on your feelings.
• Talk straight to the point and avoid beating around the bush by citing examples of some other instances.
Guidelines to Communicate Negative Feelings
• One should try and be as specific as possible about his/her feelings.
• Specifying the degree to which you are feeling bad about someone’s behavior while expressing it, will improve the effectiveness of your expression.
• Always start by describing the behavior which has hurt you, followed by the consequent feelings as this will prevent the person from immediately becoming defensive.
• In case of mixed feelings, each feeling should be expressed and explained separately.

Common Mistakes
For effectively getting your point across, you must make sure that none of the following happens.
• The non-verbal part of your communication is not in concordance with the words being spoken by you.
• Only expressing your judgment without expressing the reason behind it and its associated feelings.
• Directly blaming the person being spoken to.
• Only expressing your negative feelings without specifying any reason behind it.
It is essential that we communicate negative feelings in a respectful and productive manner so that the present ill-feelings are sorted out without your relations in future being affected by this behavior.