Here are some tips for an effective parent-child communication.

Be available for your child

-         be aware of moments when your child is willing to talk – before dinner, when he goes to bed, in the car, just be available
-         open discussion, so your child will realize that you care about what is happening with him
-         find time, at least once per week, to spend some of your time just with your child doing something what he likes
-         observe your child’s interests and document about them so you will have common topics of discussion – his favorite music or the activities which pleases him
-         you should initiate the discussions and explain the things you though about rather than to ask him questions



Let your child know that you really hear

-         when your child is telling you about his activities, stop any other activity and listen to him
-         show interest in what he is telling you without being intrusive
-         listen to his point of view even if it is very different then yours
-         let him finish what he has to say before you answer
-         repeat what you heard from him just to make sure that you understood correctly his point of view



Answer him in a way that he will hear

-         your child will get away from you if you become angry or defensive
-         state your opinion without rejecting his opinion, admitting that it’s okay to disagree
-         resist the temptation to create disputes about what is the right thing to do. Instead, tell him “I know you disagree with me but this is what I think”
-         during the conversation, focus on your child feelings rather than to focus on what you feel



Remember

-         ask your child about his expectations from the conversation you both have – he wants an advice, he wants just to be heard, he wants help to understand his own feelings or maybe he wants to solve a problem
-         children learn by imitation; most of the times he will mimic the way you solve a problem or he will face the emotions.
-         Talk to you child – do not preach, criticize or do not say things that might hurt him
-         Children learn from their own mistakes; as long as the consequences of their acts are not dangerous, it is better not to get mixed
-         It is possible that your child to tell you just a small part of what is going on, what he has on his mind. Listen carefully what he says, encourage him to speak and this way maybe he will tell you the whole story



To listen and to discuss is the key to a strong and healthy connection between parents and child. It is very hard to be a parent and to maintain a good relationship with your child when he is at the adolescence age, is quite a challenge... especially when parents are confronted with other problems.

Marriage is an important step of relationship and it does not have to be abandoned in the routine, emotional, social conventions and prototypes made in an ironic way. How to behave in marriage, how we can adapt naturally to each other, what advices we should follow, how we should take decisions, how we must solve problems, these are some questions that may one the way to a happy marriage.



The definition of marriage is .. ? It is there any definition of marriage? If I ask a priest to define marriage, sure we would give a definition, a psychologist too, but if we have to answer this question, would we find any explication of marriage?

Some people would say that is a union made for life between two should, others would say maybe that it is an ac of paper that can deteriorate at any time, but still, in the moment we step on this road, we want to have a happy marriage!



Are the advices needed for a happy marriage?

There appear more and more articles about how to behave with your partner, about what we have to do to have a normal family life or a happy marriage; at first, we think that we do not need any advices to succeed in this.

Life takes care to show both good and bad parts of it, so it is better to realize how much we want a happy marriage and try to focus more in this purpose.

Over time there were made many studies about the marriage and it was found that there are some “things” that can lead to the success of a marriage.



Here are some tips that might be useful at some point:

-         do not get both angry in the same time
-         when you criticize an attitude, a gesture, do it with cuteness
-         leave the past behind and do not remember the “former mistakes”
-         do not go to bed until you clear the conflict
-         when you made a mistake, recognize it and as for apology
-         always it takes two to start a fight, try to avoid it



In addition to these tips, the secret of a happy marriage depends mostly on the desire of the two!

Can decisions cause problems in marriage?

We do what we decide to do and what we are is the sum of all decision we make. That happens in marriage.  Even the simple “I do” said to religious ceremony when we get married, in fact is a decision.

It should not be that important who takes the decision in marriage; important is if the decision is the right one, if it is the best solution and if it will be accepted by the partner. Regardless of the problems encountered in marriage, they will not find their resolve if we do not accept that they exist. Keep your calm and take decisions together to solve your marriage problems.

If you wish to enhance your interpersonal relationships you need to improve your skill first and then you will have more successful work relationships. You know that the effective communication is a must work so you have to get started. At first, search for tools and tips for an effective interpersonal communication.



If you work with people, for instance in Human Resources,  you have all the chances that one of these days, you will have to hold a very difficult conversation. You will have to follow some steps that will help you when people need a professional feedback, if you want to provide it.

At the beginning you will have to use a soft entry and do not dive into the “angry” discussion; you are giving this way a chance to the person to brace the feedback.



We are often in the feedback role because others colleagues have complained to us about the behavior, dress, smoking habit, etc and here, you have to not amplify the feedback or even excuse your responsibility for it by stating the problem that the coworkers have complained about you. This will harm the recovery of the person who is receiving the feedback.

The best feedback is simple, forward and straight. Do not beat around the bush. I am telling you this because, for the success in the organization, you will need to address this, as it is an issue.



Receive the feedback with grace and dignity. How?

Try to control any defensiveness you have; often the fear not to get hurt is making people to five feedback to another person.

Listen for understanding and practice all the skills you need  to become an effective listener because using  facial expressions and body language will encourage the other person to talk.

Try to suspend the opinion because after all, learning about the feedback provider’s views,  you learn about how your actions are viewed in the world, about yourself in generally.

Another thing to do is that you must summarize what you hear and reflect about it because your feedback provider will like that you are really listening to them.

When you do not understand, ask question to clarify.

Require examples that illustrates the feedback because you will know, understand, and you will be able to share meaning with the person who is providing the feedback.



It does not mean that the feedback is always right just because a person is giving you feedback; this is because they interpret your actions through their own  life experience or through their own perceptual screen.

You need to be approachable because people are avoiding giving feedback to a grumpier; you show that you are open to feedback through your body language, welcoming manner and through facial expressions.

In just few words, you must remember that you are the only one who has the right and the ability, to decide what to do with the feedback.

The interaction between people is the basis of the communication. Communication is one of the most important aspects of our lives.  We all spend 70% of our time during a day, communicating and that is why we can not even imagine a live without communication, because, perhaps, is not even possible.  There are defined few types of communication depending on the number of participants and depending on the type of their relationship such as intrapersonal, interpersonal, group communication, public and mass communication. Depending of the language, there are another 3 kinds of communication: verbal, nonverbal and paraverbal communication.



For people to communicate face to face, verbal communication is one of the ways to communicate and some of the keys components of it are words, language, sounds, speaking. Verbal communication is made by some language rules because if we would use only words alone, would have no meaning and it is right when I say that only people can put the meaning into words.

Communication is the basis of any relationship, work or anything in this life.  It is important to improve communication skills if we can express ourselves correctly we can succeed more in life.



Here are some tips to improve your verbal communication skills.

1. The use of positive words in order to challenge limited beliefs – you will have to use clear and positive words in your sentences because the words you use or the explanations you give affect the other and determine emotions and thoughts.

2. Telling a story – this is one of the ways through which you let others to understand your message. Beside telling a story, it can be the reading of some quotes or telling jokes; verbal communication through stories has the power to induce the person to relate to what you are suggesting beside the sure thing that the jokes usually are helping people to relax more and are making them to open more and listen to you.  But also here, you need to know that the way you transmit the story, it can affect the thinking, the behavior and the emotions of the receivers. They are able to imagine the experience from the story and this will produce a response. A good story, said in the best way, can give hope to the people who are in need of encouragement.



3. Ask the right question – If you need to get the correct answers, ask precise the questions. It will make the difference because you will invite everyone in discussion to a positive debate and you will also become a good listener.

4. Think and prepare what you want to say – whether you are going to speak with your boss or with your sister, always think before you do that because this way you will avoid the verbal abuse.

5. Reduce the pauses – do not stop often your sentences to add expressions like ah, well, uh, etc. because too many of this will get your listeners irritated.

6. Do not use careless language – talk in ways that allow an accurate description of your thoughts or experience and do not except the others to guess what are you really trying to say; avoid words like never, all, always, every. For instance, when you say to your sister that she never answers the phone when you need to, when in fact this happened only twice, you will attract an argument.

My goal here is to show some links between the theories of communication developed throughout the second half of the 20th century, and the Theory of Conditionality on which I worked for ten years.

I do not pretend to deliver a definitive article, however I try to lay some groundwork for a strong position on the subject.

My position is summarized as follows:

# E = RC is the theory uniting all theories known as "new paradigms based on the principle of a world with limited resources.
# The various communication theories and approaches that arise are the foci of the theory of compliance (E = RC)
# The "trend Libre" (including free software, free licenses, business models Libres, including Libroscope cf) is the most important influence for my work study on the key communication.
# The _tendance Libre_ direct result of the Theory of Communication.

This trend has developed so much since 20 years with successes known as GNU / Linux, the GPL, the movement said wider open source, virtual communities are the most influential culture of the Free is particularly slashdot, debian, wikis, creativecommons the ...
# E = RC is the theory of conditionality, which deals with intangibles, including information.
# This formula says in summary that energy is equivalent to the amount of resources are multiplied by the criteria to manage it. It describes the quality of information, and can generate quantitative models adapted to each context.
# E = RC primarily reflecting Libre such "independence of mind" deal with theories of origin ", that E = RC integrates or cancels all claims of the ancient theory of information and communication.

A few days later, I would add another argument along the same lines. Assuming that the tools are justified as they are realized, it is reasonable to accept the theories of communication of the 20th century are of lesser importance to the theories face the 21st century as one of compliance. For time has done its work: the successive developments have led to better define the models in practice. Through the justification of digital tools, models / paradigms have evolved. In 2004 the trend dominates Free naturally, through the mass adoption of its growing operating criteria by governments (countries, regions, associations), companies in the new economy (IBM, SUN) and producers of content Freedom of movement (open source, GNU creative commons refusal of patent life ...).

Then I tried the link between systemic school in Palo Alto, and non-electronic communication. I found mainly the approach called Strategy of the Dolphin, already known and described in 1999 by New Keys. This seems to me to show how the systemic and other steps from the Palo Alto meet with the advent of movements called "the Free".

Believe it or not, the communication in any way it is, is the most important for the human existence. Can you imagine the human relationship or even the entire humanity without the communication? It is really important because through this way we can express our feelings, our intentions, our personality, we can exchange information, etc.



There are two important streams in the communication networks which is data communication ( which refers to the computer network, the communication between 2 computers) and telecommunication which refers to the human – to – human communication through the global telephone system, only due to some historical reasons exists a difference between these two.  More then ever, the data communication is relying on the telecommunication networks and telecommunication networks on the computer technology. They are convergent.



Types of networks and network topologies :
- network components
- active network components
- the diagram of a network (LAN) interconnected WAN
- repeater
- hub
- bridge
- switch
- router

A network is an infrastructure which allows two or many more computers – called hosts – to communicate to which other.

So, the computer network is a :
-         set of computers (stations)
-         interconnected through communication media (cable, optic fiber, telephone, radio)
-         for sharing by many users, resources
-         physical (hardware)
-         logical (software operating systems and applications), and
-         information (databases, files) associated to the other computer networks.

The computers networks were at first local networks.

- as a characteristic of today, it is a global public network which is becoming a part of human existence at all the levels.
- what made this globalization possible was the acceptance of some standard protocols of communication and concepts of natural existence, such as open systems and delegating the responsibility on the hierarchical tree of the network.



A network or a communication protocol is a set of rules for communication and the work between computers network. The protocol provides that two completely different products to communicate and work together. More abstract, a protocol is a way defined by the transfer data between the distributed stations. It defines an interface ( a clearly separation between different entities) for the distributed scenarios thru which are described the possible interactions and data – exchange components.

Corresponding to the enormous variety of types of communication and their levels of interaction in the network, exists also, a big number of protocols:
-         Ethernet – is the based protocol for the physical networks (cabling, interface)
-         TCP/IP – is a set of protocols underlying the entire Internet infrastructure, but also of the most local networks.
-         HTTP – web, documents
-         POPs / SMTP – electronic emails
-         FTP – file transfer
-         NNTP – news
-         NTP – network time synchronization
-         DNS – award of the domain name

Communication is the used method through which the people are exchanging information, ideas, thoughts, etc. The communication can be made in very numerous methods such as nonverbal – feel or eyes contact, body movements, or paralanguage, oral – thru words or singing, etc.



However, communication is a skill learned during life. Most of the peoples are born with the ability of talking but we must learn how we should speak well and also to learn how communicate effectively. Like I said, we learn during life to speak, to understand the nonverbal and verbal language, we also learn to listen and all those things are skills which we develop in many ways. Most of the time we learn the basic communication skills and this is by observing other people and also we are modeling our personalities, depending on what we see. Through education, at first, we learn directly some of communication skills but by practicing we are having them evaluated.



Communication as an academic domain, relates to every way we communicate, so it is involving a large body of study and knowledge.  The communication domain includes also the nonverbal and verbal messages. Everything about communication is presented and published in handbooks, in electronic publications, and in academic journals.

But why is communication important? The oral communication has been since long ago the main method for communicating with one another. There it is about 75% time spent on a day, communicating in any way. Most of the communication time is spent on listening and speaking while the rest of the time is spent writing or reading. These actions reflect communication skills which brings us to an easier way to success – personal, academic, professional.



The National Communication Association has been collecting and annotating about 100 articles, publications and also commentaries which are highlighting the importance of the communication studies in the contemporary society. The themes provides support about the importance of communication – the whole person development, the improvement of the educational enterprise, being responsible culturally and socially, succeeding in business, career, etc.

But what is the purpose of communication? Well, the purpose of communication is one of two categories – to call to action or to inform. When the people are talking to each other, it is either because they want to share information, feelings, stories, etc, or to ask the other to do something. When the purpose of communication is a call to action, it can be through a direct request or it just can be implied.

For example in your relationship when your significant says “I am hungry”, are they telling you just so for you to know this information or do they want your assistance, they want you to give them something to eat?

In business, the communication of calling to action or informing are ongoing activities which are not clearly separated always because if an employee is sharing a story with you about some situation, do they want you just to know about the problem or do they want your help solving it?

Communication is maybe the most important aspect of our lives. It is hard to even only imagine a life without communication.  Maybe it is not even possible to lead a life without it and this is the reason why even speechless people, deaf people, etc. learn to communicate in any way. In just one single day, about 70 % of our time is spent communicating with others, family, friends, etc, even with ourselves.



All the definitions of human communication have at least the following common elements like: communication is the process of transmitting ideas, information, opinions from one individual to another or from a group to another, any activity - from routine daily activities – until the complex activities help in the companies, organizations, can not be conceived without communication.

Like most of the words of a language, the verb and the noun -  “communicate” , are polysemantic, it has a plurality of meanings. Those specialists in charge with the communication domains, they found from the very first beginning a major difficulty that they are not dealing with a well determined operation but with a variety of them and is hard to say certainty to what extent resembles.

It is the basis of all relations. Life, school – knowledge, work, marriage, etc, a considerable measure of our happiness depends on the communication and on how we communicate. The better we communicate, the more likely we have success in our relationships with friends, family, or in our business life. Because we are “forced” to contact with people, we must make the others to understand us, our feelings, thoughts, everything, to be able to keep relation and to solve life situations and problems.

The communication process it is an extremely complex phenomenon, if we consider the codes variety, situations, channels and the methods of how it is produced; the human communication is using different typologies; depending on the participants number and depending on their type of relationship, there are defined the following types of the human communication: intrapersonal communication, interpersonal communication, group communication, public communication, mass communication.



The purpose of the communication is to:

–        alert others
–        inform others
–        explain something
–        entertain
–        describe
–        persuade, etc.

To describe the many meanings of the communication that we use and live with every day, it is used the following three items:

-         the form of the communication which is the way of communication as speech, writing or drawing.
-         The communication environment which is a way that combines several forms of the communication.
-         Media which is the ways of the mass communication who were established in a specific group.

The language is the code used to transmit the information; it is the communication tool. It has three forms: written language, verbal and nonverbal language.



So, what do we have to understand thru communication process?

-         a constant challenge to the social psychology
-         activity
-         satisfy the personal needs
-         the link between people, etc.

Teaching skills is a set of psychosocial quality, general and specific, necessary to design training activities which have as purpose the continued development of human personality, achievable activities in different institutional environments, under relevant conditions to the product level (internal resources, capitalized). In psychology, the skill is approached in terms of its relations with the human capacity. It is interpreted as: synonyms, real, in relation with human capacity, virtual, etc.



The general function of the teaching skills exceeds the scope of the educational actions, employing all the educational resources of the human activity, capitalized on the level of: content (intellectual – moral – technological – aesthetics – physical), form (formal – nonformal – informal), research (basic – guide – applied), and management educational (leadership – global – optimal – strategic).



The structure of the teaching skills synthesize "a complex psychosocial traits" which ensure the competency of the education subject in the action of the permanently development of the educational object (preschool, pupil, student, etc.) Within this determined structure, is the ability of the teacher to communicate. It maintains the capitalization and the adequate integration of all features skills, achievable actually at the level of:

-         ability to know and to understand the subject of education

-         the capacity to stimulate the creativity needed to adapt to the new conditions that are arising during the unfolding educational / teaching action

-         the capacity to management organization of the activity at design – evaluation – deployment – self-improvement, through development of the reverse connection circuits.



The functional structure of the teaching skills, developed around the effective teaching communication ability, it correlates four general types of skills:

-         the policy competence, demonstrated through the correct reception and employment of the direct and indirect responsibilities, transmitted from the macrostructure finality.

-         the psychological competence, demonstrated through the correct reception and employment of the direct and indirect responsibilities, transmitted from the microstructure.

-         the scientific competence, demonstrated by the quality of the projects development at the line of continuity between the research basic – oriented – applied.

-         the social competence , which is dependent through the resources of adaptation of the “actors of the education” at the requirements of the national education community, local, regional, which are permanently moving.

The pedagogical skills “hire” a type of formative communication which emphasizes the quality of the teachers reported to three criteria of the global assessment:

-         the frequency of a creative behavior, adaptable to innovative changes, triggered at the system and process level;

-         the fan of the pedagogical situations, which are based on the structure function of the educational / teaching actions, in terms of continues self-adjustments;

-         the intensity of the effective pedagogical reaction in conditions of an open psycho – social field, which is influencing the behavior of the “educational actors”.

The practical dimensions of the teaching skills, shows triple hypostasis: the specialty teacher, teacher and class master, but also the hypostasis of teacher and adviser.

The specialty teacher hypostasis (native language, mathematics, physics, biology, philosophy, etc.), is requesting a particular type of teaching skills, based on the capacity of design – implementation – evaluation of knowledge, based on the strategy and skills needed in the learning activities, organized according to the specific objective of the school disciplines.

The teacher and class master hypostasis is based on the capacity of the formation of moral beliefs, while the teacher and adviser (or methodist teacher, director, inspector) hypostasis is based on the capacity of the leadership, in generally.

To communicate means to share thoughts, feelings, ideas and experiences. Thus, the communication is the process through which we can understand and transmit the meanings of our own values and beliefs. As a process it involves an exchange of messages between at least two people. The human communication deals with the meaning of verbal information, presented in an oral or written form, and also with the nonverbal information represented by paralanguage, body movements and use of space.



The nonverbal communication is that type of communication that does not use spoken language, and neither any substitute of it ( verbal codes for deaf, Morse code, etc). This type of communication is divided by professional authors, in :



1. The tactile communication (touch)

2. The gesture – kinesthetic communication (by significant movement of the body parts, excepting those parts of the body that mean the verbal communication).

3. The communication with the help of the objects (color, order, size, distribution, movement, etc).

4. The artistically communication (the communication of the artistic emotion, beyond its own content).

The nonverbal communication has the following characteristics:

-         has a great credibility, beating the verbal communication.

-         It can expand into more areas of development / repertoires. So, those who are speaking they are accompanying the verbal communication with gestures but also those who read or look out the window they actually communicate, nonverbal.

-         It is almost totally uncontrolled and unstructured.

-         It is innate, a part of it was formed by acquisitions mostly evolutionary (example: through the imitation of gestures seen to the others).

The nonverbal messages may be in conflict with those of the verbal communication. The people tend to look at the right side of the face which is a wrong way if it is wanted an intense perceiving of emotions; most of the nonverbal messages are unconscious; the nonverbal channels are very important in the communicating of feeling and attitudes. ‘

The functions of nonverbal communication:

-         the nonverbal communication it is meant to highlight the verbal one;

-         the nonverbal communication can fill the message transmitted verbally.

-         the nonverbal communication may deliberately to contradict certain aspects of the verbal communication;

-         the nonverbal communication may regulate the flow of the communication and it can moderate the own dynamics of the verbalize communication;

-         the nonverbal communication repeats or updates the meaning of the verbal communication and is giving the receiver the possibility to understand and identify in real time the motion or affirmations.

-         The elements of the nonverbal communication can replace verbal aspects of the communication (e.g. through a gesture the teacher is indicating to the student to answer the question).



In practice, we are distinguishing different types of the nonverbal communication. The body movements are integrated in the area of the nonverbal communication, the range of five categories: emblems (symbols), illustrators, regularized, feelings exposure, adapters.